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Finding Your Ideal
Partner? |
by:
Rick
Valens |
How would you
describe the ideal girl of your dream?
 “Oh,
she has got to be beautiful with a nice figure, having a sweet
and sexy voice, cheerful, gentle, considerate, kind-hearted,
understanding, independent, musically inclined, share a common
interest of mine, hmm… knows how to prepare nice food and… ”
Ok, that is enough. Now, do you think such a perfect person
actually exists? Well maybe yes maybe not. But if everyone were
to nevertheless, really have such a high expectations, love is
certainly going to be hardly visible in the air. Don’t you think
so too?
So, what makes an ideal partner then? Well before we go on,
perhaps it might be good to know what an exact ideal partner are
we discussing here? A dating partner or a marriage partner? Or
has this question never even occurred to you before?
Ok, let us answer the question again separately. Hmm… maybe we
shall get the girls to answer this time.
First question: How would you describe an ideal dating partner?
Common answers would include, “Dashing with a nice body, full of
gentlemanliness, caring and considerate, having a good sense of
humor, cheerful, fun loving, adventurous, full of fun and
excitement, loves me dearly and etc”
Ok now the second question: How would you describe an ideal
marriage partner?
Common answers would include, “Mature, got a sense of
responsibility, cheerful, caring, understanding, honest,
kind-hearted, having a financially stable income, knowledgeable,
able to take good care of the family, loves me dearly and etc”
Notice the difference? An ideal dating partner and an ideal
marriage partner is usually a very different person, perhaps
just very a little in common I would say.
Well in a perfect case, an ideal partner should of course be
best, both a dating and a marriage partner. Someone whom you
enjoy dating, bringing you lots of fun, joy and excitements; at
the same time someone whom is willing to share your problems and
unhappiness, accepting all your negative habits and faults;
committed to bringing you happiness.
But again, does such an ideal person exist? Can we really have
both the pie and the cake? Think about it. Are we somehow
setting too high an expectation? Unknowingly rejecting our
chances? Losing the opportunity to be in love? Unknowingly
bringing unhappiness to your relationship, yourself and your
love? Hmm… well, do remember that we are afterall just talking
about ideal here. Something, which is good to have, but not a
must to have?
So before you are going to start complaining again that life is
so unfair to you, ask yourself, “Have you really ever tried?
Tried pursuing for happiness?”
Instead of always picking on your partner’s faults making life
unhappy for both, have you tried looking at the other beautiful
side of them, their beautiful qualities? Appreciating what you
have already got? Tried improving on yourself instead, to
becoming a better lover; a more ideal lover? Willing to open up
yourself, giving both yourself and others a chance? Remember,
what you expect of yours or your future partner is equally what
he or she expects of you.
Going into a relationship is never a game. It is a long-term
investment, an investment of love between the both of you. It is
something which both have to genuinely think through and plan
far. What would actually come after dating? Marriage is what I
should suppose? Sharing the rest of your life, your future
happiness with that special someone?
Well, if nothing were to go wrong in your relationship, your
dating partner is eventually going to become your marriage
partner, your life partner. Can I say so? Ok, to the girls, let
me ask you a question. Would you share your happiness with
someone that is full of fun and excitement to be with now, but
deep down within yourself you know he is not going to be a good
husband, someone who would not take good care of his family?
So again, what is your definition of an ideal partner? Someone
whom truly love you, willing to share your problems and
unhappiness or…? Well, the answer is within you. It has been
with you all this while, only you can find the answer to this
question. Your happiness belongs to you, nobody can decide for
you. Be true to yourself, you should know what you really wants. |
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